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Loving Me After We

The Essential Guide to Healing, Growing, and Thriving After a Toxic Relationship

Audiobook
1 of 2 copies available
1 of 2 copies available

This program is read by the author.
For fans of How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera and The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban, Loving Me After We is the audiobook that will teach you how to love yourself after you've lost yourself in a toxic relationship, and embody confidence, emotional security, and self-love.
A breakup can feel like the end of the world—but what if it could serve as the start of a better you?
In our search for love, affection, and acceptance, we often find ourselves repeating old patterns with new partners. Our brains seek familiar touch points as a way of navigating the unpredictability of our lives, but this means we can find ourselves reentering relationships with the same toxic dynamics. Toxic relationships are especially hard to recover from, especially when they uncovered some of our earliest and deepest traumas. When we leave them, we often find ourselves nursing a broken heart, again and again.
Even Ginger Dean, a celebrated psychotherapist, found herself stuck in this cycle, but something eventually clicked: Heartbreak didn't have to be a foregone conclusion. Heartbreak can bring us back home to ourselves, not only in our romantic relationships, but in every area of our lives. Once we start healing our hearts, other aspects of our lives open up to bloom.
Through personal anecdotes, practical guidance, and a little bit of tough love, Ginger brings her wisdom and empathy to any reader who is ready to join the revolution of women healing their hearts so they can start the best love affair they've ever known—with themselves. Loving ourselves, healing our emotional wounds, setting boundaries, breaking trauma bonds, and doing the necessary healing work after a toxic relationship is a radical decision in today's society. We become savage self-lovers. We are loving me after we.
A Macmillan Audio production from Flatiron Books.

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    • Publisher's Weekly

      May 27, 2024
      Psychotherapist Dean debuts with a well-intentioned if haphazard guide to recovering from harmful romantic relationships. Breaking her program down into three parts, she encourages readers first to focus on self-care and introspection, before identifying how such defense mechanisms as denying abuse make volatile relationships feel more stable and examining how “parts of ourselves that we have... repressed”—including formative childhood experiences—shape one’s relationship patterns. Lastly, readers can look toward the future by identifying the core values they share with their partner, setting boundaries, and forging a “conscious love” that affords each person space to evolve within the relationship. Though Dean weaves in valuable insights gained from surviving her own “toxic rollercoaster” of a marriage, she introduces a surfeit of concepts that often go underdeveloped and crowd out room for hands-on exercises. Part two, for instance, covers shadow and ego work—which involves exploring repressed parts of one’s psyche, toxic shame cycles, attachment styles, trauma respose styles, “survival-based relationships,” and “repetitive compulsions” in relationships. There’s some solid information here, but readers may want to look elsewhere for a more actionable guide to healing from heartbreak.

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